Bad Boy Good Girl Attraction

 

 For some time now I have been wondering the chemistry between a good girl and a typical bad boy. Often times, we get to hear stories how a beautiful sister, with good morals, sound education and very hard working would fall madly in love with this brother that could pass for a jerk. Forget the good look `thing, I’m talking about a man who probably doesn’t know or value her worth, he goes about chasing anything in skirt, sometimes he get physically or emotional violence with her, a heavy drinker, chain smoker and worse still high on marijuana or cocaine. Why in the world would a God fearing sister find such a man irresistible? In my quest for the answer, I had to engage some friends on social network. I got loads of response in my inbox, some of responses came from sisters that confessed to be once a victim or current victims.
 Let’s read what some of those responses;
                                             
                                
 Reason #1: Bad boys want to become good. And who else could better accomplish this than a good girl? Nice girls always tend to have a blind spot when it comes to bad boys gone good, and they just adore seeing them change. They are also highly interested in helping them change and being able to brag about this accomplishment.

 Reason #2: Bad boys force the bad side out of a good girl. All good girls like to picture what their life would look like should they be on the bad side. Bad boys manage to help them achieve just that and help them get rid of their shyness.

 Reason #3: Bad boys are never boring. They always have something to do, places to go, people to see. You can’t say you dislike traveling together and going on new. Adventures all the time. At times, their adventures might prove to be just a tad more dangerous than a good girl might expect, but that is the fun in going out with such a bad boy, anyway. 
Reason #4: A bad boy offers something that’s different. There is just this excitement associated with somebody who’s very different from you. Reason 

#5: Bad boys are mysterious. They somehow always manage to create and maintain an aura of mystery around themselves. And even though the ladies love to know their men by heart, some of them also prefer to have certain things hidden from them. Something in their man’s past that is hidden, that he never talks about, just drives them crazy. 

Reason #6: Bad boys seem to be more passionate. Bad boys are always more or less consciously associated with passionate activities, and of course love-making is one of them. But they are also thought to be more passionate so it is easy to see why the ladies might dig that – no one likes a wimp, right? 
Reason #7: Bad boys are more secure. Ladies tend to prefer a man who has self-confidence and security. If the man they are with is secure at all times, women tend to feel better protected. Bad boys always manage to at least create the illusion of being extremely protective and secure, having their head on their shoulders at all times and taking the bull by its horns no matter what. But are these reasons enough why good girls usually fall for bad boys? 
 Everyone falls in love for different reasons, what one girl would consider to be attractive might be completely repulsive to another one. We will do a part two of this research soon!!! 
Xoxo Elsie-Coco

To My Mum On Mother’s Day Special!!!

There are really no words enough to describe my jewel of inestimable value, my mother, Mrs Elsie-Ekpoawan U. Williams.
My mum is the strongest woman I know, for nine stressful months she protected me in her womb. Went through the narrow road of life/death to ensure my existence. She fed me with milk from her breasts and held me in her arms to rest despite the inconvenience of my helpless little self. As my guardian angel, she made sure I was on the right track and instilled respect in me through disciple. Praises and prayers is what I have learnt from her since infancy and in the days I’m too weak to pray, I remember she is praying for me always. As a wife, she was submissive, supportive and loving to my late father. She stood by him through the good and bad times, in health, sickness, pain and even in death.
A great teacher she is, mother to many. Her children and grandchildren are her priority. She worries about us when things don’t seem to be going on well. Every week she makes sure she calls me to find out so many things; how I’m faring health wise, how the Big Sister brand is doing, and when I’ll be taking some time off work to walk down the aisle lols.
That is my mum, my rock, my back bone, shoulder to cry on, best friend and cook for life. Thank you for making me who I am today, you are simply the BEST OF ALL DEM MOTHERS.

WHEN HE DASHES YOUR HOPE...

Mandy was in her late twenties when Ikenna, her then fiance jilted her. He was her first love, the first guy she ever dated. They started dating since her early twenties  before he called it quit with the relationship.
As expected, Mandy was devastated. It took a long while before coming to terms with the heartbreak that had closed that chapter of her life.
Three years after shutting out men from her life, Mandy decides to  move on with her life. Now, she is ready for a fresh relationship and suitors have been coming out but the issue now is, the suitors that come do not last. The men will propose, lift up her hope and within a month or two, she realizes the relationship is no more.
That has been the story with all the guys she met after Ikenna and it has affected Mandy a lot. She is miserable and withdrawn. She thinks she is jinxed and is worried why the men will not stay.
What the likes of Mandy should  understand is that marriage is a serious institution and should  not be toyed with. It is a life long bond which we have to think about it properly before making our decision. Maybe the men seem to understand this better than women.
Obviously, it hurts when your expectations is dashed and promises made broken at the time when almost all your friends and mates are married with children but there are so many things women should know such as the following;
-Even though age is not on your side, do not be desperate and eager to settle down. When you tell yourself this, you won't be hurt when any son of Adam reneges on his promise.
-A broken relationship/engagement  is better than a broken marriage.
-Don't brood over it so much. Don't allow it give you sleepless nights because you may end up doing what you will regret like inflicting body harm on yourself. No man is worth dying for, always remember that.
-Don't you think that the guy dashing your hope affords you another opportunity for preparing yourself for marriage?
-Tell yourself that he is NOT for you, that a better guy is coming on the way.
Prepare your mind to a state of not taking a guy serious when he proposes. That way, you won't feel hurt when he does the unexpected.
-Involve yourself in activities that would take your mind off the pain of being jilted. Live your life, start fulfilling those dreams you've always had since childhood.
-Discuss your problems with a marriage counselor and confide in a man of God for further counseling and prayers.
Wish you the best.
Elsie-Coco

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Making the best of you this new year

And so year 2014 is finally here and I am grateful to God from the dept of my heart. As I look back the year that just passed, I see so many goals and dreams that never became a reality and that makes me even more excited for this new year. 

I've never been so positive before about any year than I am for year 2014. All I  couldn't do, where I couldn't go, things I couldn't achieve all at my beck and call this year and with the special grace of the Almighty, I am so in control of this year and it is my wish for all my numerous readers world over to take charge and make the best out of year 2014 as well.

It could be difficult but we will pull through together with the following guide.

GET MORE CLOSER TO YOUR MAKER: 
 
The holy book says the secret of God is with those that know him for He shall show them His covenant and those that wait on Him, He will renew their strength. In whatever you do in 2014, acknowledge him and He shall direct your path.

SURROUND  YOURSELF WITH POSITIVE TALK AND PEOPLE: 
 
Negative self talk, put downs and disparaging remarks and one’s own expense does nothing more than lower self esteem and self worth. Stay as far as the north is to the East and South to the West from people who don’t value you or often times look down on you.

YOU ARE NOT A DULLARD: It is not about how the world sees you, the most important thing is how you see yourself. There can only be one person like you and that alone makes you different and unique from every other person. Identify your key skills and competence that will certainly give you an edge over other.

WHAT VERSION ARE YOU? 
 
Develop yourself into the best version of yourself because every other person is already taken. Books, courses, certification, voluntary works, networking, events, seminars or conferences can help sharpen your values in life. No matter how good you are, there is someone’s knowledge or expertise which you can leverage on for the furtherance of your goal. Find a mentor or success coach that you can turn to for advice or mentor.

MAKE A FLIGHT PLAN FOR THE YEAR: 

 Make a list of your goals for all the twelve months of the year and steps to achieve every one of them, of course, you back it up with prayers.

FINANCIAL BUDGET: Plan for the worst, hope for the best. Ensure you have a savings plan to prepare for the rainy day in event of pay cuts, downsizing/right sizing or redundancies.

CREATE TIME FOR YOURSELF: 
 
No matter your statues martially or professionally, let none of those rob you of your special moments with yourself. Pay attention to good grooming, your hair, face, teeth, your outfit and accessories. Create time for your love life, hang out with good friends and smile as much as you can, help those you can. Whatever strategy you develop for increasing your self esteem or self worth, just know you are truly the cake and everyone’s positive thought of you is the icing.

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